Monday, September 28, 2015

Office Bullying Guide: 5 Tips for Managers

It’s scary but true.

A recent report by a law firm has revealed one-third of employees have been bullied in the workplace.

The repercussions are huge.

While a third of those affected say they did nothing for fear of losing their job or hurting their career prospects, a large number of victims are remonstrating in ways that have financial impact on the business.

Either by taking paid leave due to stress; resigning and, effectively, walking away from the career you’ve both invested in; or in extreme cases, beginning legal proceedings in which you, the business owner, are held accountable.

Therefore, bullying strikes a moral and financial blow. Which means it is your responsibility as a small business owner to be vigilant. What should you do?

1. Look at Yourself

Firstly know what bullying is, as you might be guilty of it. Workplace bullying is defined as the repetitive, prolonged abuse of power, resulting in humiliation, offense, intimidation and distress. It can take the form of:

  • Rudeness
  • Bitchy or gossipy behavior
  • Shouting
  • Finger pointing
  • Swearing

It can be directed peer-to-peer, upwards from workers to managers, or downwards from directors to workers.

If you are a business owner who likes a joke or a bit of friendly ribbing, it might be worth taking a step back. Is your banter really harmless? Or could it be seen as an unacceptable way to behave?

2. Have a Policy in Place

We all want our companies to be nice places to work — to be environments where people prosper because you nurture their talents. So ensure staff feel supported by developing an anti-bullying policy.

Put together a guide that provides workers with a to-do list if they find themselves the target of a bully. The guide should list helpful tips, for example, suggesting they keep a diary of incidences before escalating the issue.

It should also name a person in the company they should approach as a mediator if they can’t confront the bully themselves. You should ensure this policy is visible and everyone knows it exists.

Insert it in the staff handbook, if you have one. Pin it to the kitchen noticeboard. Share it on the intranet. Just ensure your support is visible.

3. Be Approachable

If bullying is taking place, you need to ensure the victim feels they can talk to you. As the boss, you can make the buck stop, which is very important when the victim can’t see a resolution in sight.

Listen to what they say. Let them do the talking, which I know is not that easy when you’re naturally a problem solver.

Resist any urge to dismiss their claims, and be careful not to make any rash decisions. You need to be empathetic but you also need to know the full story. Which brings me to my fourth point …

4. Know the Facts

Bullying is a type of emotional abuse, and the forms it takes can be very subjective. For example, a daily swear-y tirade from your partner might be funny to you, but hugely intimidating to Sarah in Accounts.

It’s for this very reason you need to understand that there are two sides to every story. Is the bully really a bully? Is what’s being reported fair?

Ask the victim for examples of the bullying, perhaps in the form of a diary. Be kind and gentle when you ask them because, if their claim is genuine but they haven’t kept a diary, you’re basically forcing them to cope with continued harassment in their quest to obtain “evidence.” But you do need this information to deal with the matter fairly.

On the other hand, educate yourself on what doesn’t constitute bullying. For example, differences of opinion during a stressful period at work can leave staff feeling upset, but this shouldn’t be confused with bullying.

Similarly, you and your managers have a right to exercise authority, whether it’s to manage performance, deal with inappropriate behavior or just to set necessary deadlines. This is not tyranny though, just effective management. Finally, one incidence of unreasonable behavior is an isolated act, not bullying. (Though I would hasten to add, it should be addressed there and then, to avoid it escalating.)

5. Know What to Do Next

If a case of bullying exists in your office, call in some help. Either from your HR manager, your lawyer or someone you know who has personnel or legal know-how.

This situation is a potential minefield, and it needs to be handled very carefully. You want to be able to resolve it and retain the staff members involved, at the same time as ensuring little disruption to the business.

To achieve a successful resolution, you will need an expert’s helps to navigate what is likely be a lengthy process with the potential to explode, if not handled correctly.

Office bullying isn’t something that will disappear on its own. You must address these issues head-on in order to ensure a safe, happy, and therefore productive, workplace.

(Photo by PDPics / CC BY)

Friday, September 25, 2015

Contractors' Questions: Can I put shoes, suits and lunch on expenses?

Expert helps a contractor wanting a tax deduction on formal wear and food.

How to Become a Leader

Leaders are usually admired and envied by everyone around.

However, there are some people who find it relieving that they don’t have to take on big responsibilities.

But this attitude is not really getting them far — only those who take chances are likely to succeed.

What holds individuals back from speaking their mind?

All sorts of fears hold them back, most of them unconscious. Here are some helpful solutions and guidelines for overcoming these obstacles.

What’s Holding You Back?

Lack of confidence. This problem affects a big part of the population worldwide. People with impressive talents and great skills are often afraid to come out and showcase their value. They don’t want to look ridiculous or be criticized. In the end, these people start believing they don’t do anything special, so they keep hiding and withholding brilliant ideas and useful contributions.

Fear. Fear keeps people away from tons of amazing things. As a child, it’s normal to hesitate or to refuse doing new scary activities. But adults have no real reason for not hunting for better positions or jobs. Yet they continue to be afraid of the unknown and of changes. Honestly speaking, no one can guarantee that the next boss will listen to you. But it is a certain fact that the actual one won’t change!

Routine. At least in here I know exactly what I have to do. This is what most people would say, motivating the refusal of asking for more. Routine clutters our mind and allow us to avoid wondering about other possibilities. Face it — adults have the same schedule, day after day, ensuring that we don’t seek out a better way of living. They are cozy enough with the present situation and don’t want the burden of being leaders.

How to Get Out of the Comfort Zone

Always ask questions. Inquiring minds are never satisfied with the actual state of things. They always try to improve and to innovate. So the first step is to start analyzing your life and see what there is to be changed. Small decisions are the best for getting used to this attitude. Question your responsibilities — why are you given these tasks, how are they helping the company, etc.

Keep an open mind. Let new things come to you! They bring in joy and the satisfaction of self-development. Don’t refuse tasks when don’t have the answer on the spot. Instead of thinking I don’t know how to do that, say I will learn the solution and apply it as best I can.

Accept challenges and think positive. You will be amazed at the outcomes. Some companies appreciate employees with bold initiatives and courage. If the one you are working for does not promote personal growth, it’s time to look for another one. Struggling just for a paycheck is not an option for future leaders.

Give others advice (and learn to take others). Don’t underestimate your skills. Even persons in their twenties can teach others life lessons. Find someone who needs personal or professional guidance and help him/her out.

These generous acts will boost your self-confidence! In time, you will grow to have bolder initiatives and a more professional attitude. Another good idea is to study famous leaders’ lives. See how they act to achieve success and to gain influence, and mimic that, essentially taking their advice.

Take on more responsibilities. The key to becoming a leader is to gather more and more tasks. Get involved in several projects, learn new things, volunteer for activities. In this way, you will get used to being responsible for major aspects of the company. Slowly, people will start depending on you and asking for advice. Take advantage of the situation and prove that you deserve to be trusted and put in a leading position.

Respect yourself. The first step toward gaining other’s respect is to respect yourself. Only accept jobs and tasks that will take you up and not down. Often, bosses abuse their power and impose ridiculous rules and schedules.

Employees are not obliged to put up with these miseries. They have two options — asking for decent working conditions or look for better jobs. Don’t be afraid to take a stand; you deserve to be happy! True leaders know their worth and accept nothing less.

Parting Words

In the end, no matter what field you may be working in, becoming a leader is a top priority. It’s not about being everybody’s boss, but about being the best of you.

Share your personal fears and ideas in the comment section below. Tell us about things that motivate and inspire you.

Help others by showing them that progress is possible when you have the courage to step into the unknown.

(Photo by U.S. Dept of Education / CC BY)